I am so excited for this post. I read Hands Free Mama a few months ago and I was amazed at the content. Seriously, if you haven’t read it, go read it now!
In Hands Free Life, Rachel Macy Stafford shares nine habits to live a more fulfilled life. Throughout the book , there are mindful daily practices to help you through the journey of a Hands Free Life.
The back of the book has a very apt description.
“With a Hands Free Life, you will have the power to look back and see you didn’t just manage life, you actually lived it- and lived it well.” – Hands Free Life
That is exactly what you’ll find within the pages of a Hands Free Life.
While reading a Hands Free Life, I felt as if it was written just for me. The words on the pages jumped out at me. Page by page, chapter by chapter, I could feel a change stirring inside.
The idea of a Hands Free Life is a hard one. Especially for me. I
am was an over planner, a control freak and a person who tended to live in the past or the future.
With Hands Free Life, I’ve learned how to live in the NOW (I may be a work-in-progress but that’s ok.)
It was hard for me not to read the entire book in one day. I limited myself to a chapter or two a day. I wanted give myself the time to reflect upon the wisdom in the pages.
In the first chapter, Rachel talks about the spaces in our lives. What are we filling them up with? Is it things that keep us busy or things that nurture us? I had to stop and think about what I want to remember about my life. At the end of my life, would I be that concerned about how much money I had or the clothes I wore? No. That’s not what’s important to me.
When I look back on my life, I want to remember:
The way my daughter’s hair tangles when she sleeps.
The sound of her giggles when she tells me a joke.
The way her hand fits into mine.
The look on her face when she learns something new.
I want to remember:
The conversations with the elderly in my life.
The joy of watching the sun set.
The smell after a summer rain.
Random road trips with my family.
The silly songs my daughter and I make up.
I want to remember:
How my daughter crawls into my bed to snuggle.
The late night talks with her about her dreams and fears.
I want to remember:
Living my life.
It made me think about how I want to remember my life. How I want my daughter to remember her childhood. And what choices I need to make in my days to have the life I want.
If you fill your day with what’s important to you, you’re living a life to remember.
When you think about your life, what do you see? A dozen appointments, a thousand “to-do’s”, a million regrets? Some people strive to live their lives regret free. While that’s an admirable goal, it’s not realistic. We are all human, flawed and imperfect. We WILL make mistakes, it’s part of what makes us grow and learn.
Without regrets, would we:
Know what we want in life?
Would we know what matters?
Would we embrace life for what it is,
Instead of what we wish it could be?
Without regrets, would we change and evolve?
You don’t have to dwell on your regrets to learn from them.
Recognize, learn and let go.
Rachel shares how, as a mother, she wished she could “freeze time” in order to keep her children little. I believe most parent s thought the same thing. I know I have. She then makes the realization that wishing she could freeze time would only be holding back her children from their potential.
To avoid the same trap, I decided I would make my own “Freeze List”. But, instead of wishing I could freeze time, I would freeze the memories, in my mind.
When I encounter a moment that I wish I could freeze, I’m writing it down in my “Freeze Notebook”. That way, I can always remember but continue to move forward in life.
Instead of freezing time, freeze the memories.
Rachel told a story about a man who seemingly lost everything he had in a tornado. To an outsider’s point of view, he did loose everything. His house, his belongings, everything was swept away. Or was it?
Yes, he lost his house, but not his home.
Yes, he lost his belonging, but not where he belongs.
He still had his family, so he still had his home.
His still had his memories, of the life he built.
He still had his faith, his love and his fulfillment.
If tomorrow, you lost everything material in your life, what would be left?
When Rachel spoke of her former controlling, perfectionist ways, it was as if she was talking directly to me.
The hardest concept for me to grasp was letting go of control. As I stated above, I like to control everything. It causes me anxiety when things are unplanned and unscheduled. I’ve found myself attempting to plan spontaneity in my life. How pathetic is that?
When letting go of the control (it’s a work in progress!) I’ve begun to see the beauty of observing.
Things Won’t Always Fall Apart When I Let Go.
When I let go of control:
I receive the gift of observing
People reaching their full potential.
I receive the gift of knowing
That things don’t always fall apart.
I receive the gift of understanding
That some people have a different way.
I receive the gift of of freedom
Of letting life happen to me.
The pressures of daily life can become overwhelming. What would happen if we let go of perfection and instead embraced imperfection?
Life doesn’t have to perfect to be beautiful.
I wrote the bulk of this post as I read through Hands Free Life. The perfectionist, organized, control free me is screaming “this isn’t the way to do a review, don’t hit publish!”.
But I feel this particular book deserves an authentic review from the heart. Hands Free Life is much more than a mere book. It’s a guide, a story, a life changer.
It will change your life.
Learn how I let go of envy with a Hands Free Life.
Enter The Giveaway:
I was provided with two copies of Hands Free Life to run a giveaway for my readers.
Please note: This giveaway is only open to those living in The United States. There will be two winners. I will contact both winners at the end of the giveaway to confirm mailing address. Winners will be chosen at random.
Disclaimer: I was provided with a copy of this book at no cost in exchange for me honest review. All thoughts and opinions expressed are solely mine. I was not compensated in any other way for this post from the publisher or the author.
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